Did you realize that the quality of time does not necessarily mean spending a lot of time together? In fact, it can be quite the opposite. Quality of time does not mean quantity. You do not need to spend every hour of the day with your family for them to feel loved by you.
For example. You could spend an entire day with your kids, going through the motions, not really paying attention to them. But you’re “there”. Verses, you place all distractions away. Cell phone, TV, etc., and 100% focus on your child. Even just for 30 mins. That 30 mins of being FULLY focused with your child is so much more impactful than spending an entire day with your child and not really noticing them or giving them your undivided attention.
Another example would be. Say you and your husband are on a date. During the date. Your husband is on his phone most of the time. How is this going to make you feel? The date could last 3 hours, but unless he’s engaging in conversation and present. It does not matter how much time is spent together. Verses, you and your husband are on a date for one hour and are fully engaged in the topic of conversation with no distractuins. You are going to feel so much more valued and important.
This concept helped me a lot in regards to working full-time outside the home. Especially since I am a nurse. When I’m working my shift that is 12-14 hours long. I go days without seeing my kids. I slowly began to focus on the importance of the limited time I have with them and how to spend it wisely.
This might mean you need to fold the laundry during nap time, browse social media at another time, wash the dishes later, etc., and try your best to be fully focused on what’s most important at that moment.
Our little ones only stay little for so long. One day we will want this time back. Time is so valuable. So, make the most of the time you are given.